Breaking Free From Emotional Enslavement

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

Amidst the hustle and bustle of pre-Pesach preparations, we find ourselves preoccupied with cleaning, shopping, and cooking. It’s that time of year again, when we think of slavery, freedom, four cups of wine, miracles, and — of course — that long-awaited fresh springtime air!

10 Tips to Making Dating Events Work for You

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

I recall the overwhelming feeling of walking into yet another singles event. Here we go again! The nerves, the anticipation: Who will be there? How do I look? Will this just be another one of those events where I put myself out there and once again leave empty-handed?

The Heartbreak of Dating with a Disability in the Jewish World

Written by Ariella Barker on . Posted in Dating

Eleven years ago, I appeared in front of the Rabbinical Council of America to gain their permission to officially convert to Judaism. The Rabbi asked me one pointed, unforgettable question: “As a goy, you are able to marry most anyone in the world. Why would you convert and limit yourself to less than 2 percent of the population?” For me, the answer was simple. I only wished to marry a Jewish man and to raise my children with Jewish values. If I remained a goy, I would be unable to marry anyone. Alas, over a decade later, I am still unmarried.

What About You?

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A little selfishness is a good thing, even in a relationship.

I grew up in a home where giving was loving. When I began dating I began giving, sometimes a bit too much; it would go either unappreciated or unreciprocated, and I’d start to become resentful. How can I learn to give in a comfortable and healthy way without compromising who I am and what I need in a relationship?

Connecting with Your Date Without Letting All the Skeletons Out of Your Closet

Written by The Shadchan Next Door on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

 When I am on a date, I generally get over my nervous anticipation quite quickly, but my friends and family have told me that when I get comfortable (which I think is a good thing on a date), I get too comfortable. Apparently, I tend to let my table manners slide, for example, sometimes chewing with my mouth open. Based on this feedback, instead of focusing on my date when I am out I now can’t stop thinking about this issue.

A Flag on the Dating Field

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A look at common and less well-known abusive behaviors in personal relationships.

Every Jew is created in the image of G-d. With that privilege comes the expectation and right of every man and woman to be treated with respect, care, sensitivity, compassion, and love in potentially the closest and most significant relationship in their life: marriage. 

Unmasking the Hidden Gem

Written by Rachel Burham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

 Am I the only one who feels like there is nobody to date? I am a 29-year-old single; I have dated the people potentially suitable for me in my area (and several beyond!) and none of those relationships worked out. I do get additional suggestions, but they are mostly out of left field and are not what I am looking for. Does my bashert (soulmate) even exist? Any suggestions on how to move forward? I feel like I’ve hit a brick wall.

Five Ways to Attract the Relationship You Want but Can’t Find

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

When I describe the qualities I’m looking for in a spouse to a friend, matchmaker, or family member, I detail goals and values, what I respect and appreciate in a date, and aspects of my personality. Frustratingly, I’m repeatedly disappointed at the options that come my way. Is it me? Am I not being clear? Does that person not exist? How do I change this pattern of bad or wrong dates?

Flawed Assumptions

Written by By Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

Dating coach Rachel Burnham answers your questions.

A Reader Asks:

I repeatedly find myself at this point in dating when I’m really liking the person, but now know them well enough to see their flaws as well. I’m not talking about superficial nitpicky issues or major red flags, but the sort of mid-level quirks that you know will grate on you horribly 20 years from now. It gives me an overwhelming urge to bail. My friends say I shouldn’t be letting debatable flaws influence my decision to continue a relationship, but I worry I’d be ignoring my instincts.

Second Chances

Written by Rachel Burnham on . Posted in Dating

A Reader Asks:

 What advice do you have for divorced men and women venturing back into the dating field after significant time away? Between the incorporation of technology into meeting people and the pressure to make better choices this time around, it feels a little overwhelming.

Researching a Potential Date

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The topic for this week’s dating panel is checking references: how do you do it, and how far is too far?

Anonymous Female Single

(Source: InMotionDating.com)When it comes to checking references, I tend to turn to one source: Facebook.